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Who Gets to Stay in the Family Home During Separation?

Separation is a challenging process that involves many legal and emotional complexities, especially when it comes to deciding who stays in the family home. Understanding your rights and the legal framework surrounding this issue is crucial for a smoother transition. Here's a comprehensive guide to help you navigate this difficult situation.

Legal Entitlements to the Marital Home

Both spouses are legally entitled to live in the marital home during separation, regardless of ownership. This means that neither spouse can force the other out or change the locks without mutual agreement or a court order. Ownership of the property, whether sole or joint, does not affect the right to reside in the home during this period.

What If One Spouse Refuses to Leave?

If you and your spouse cannot agree on who should leave the home, the situation can become stressful. It's important to note that you cannot force your spouse out without a court order, even if the property is solely in your name. This protection ensures that both parties' rights are maintained during the separation process.

Moving Out and Your Rights

Choosing to leave the family home does not mean forfeiting your rights to the property or any possessions. You can still claim a portion of the property during the settlement process. It's advisable to take important personal belongings with you when you leave to prevent any issues later. You also retain the right to return to the home at any time during the separation, provided there is no court order against you.

Considerations for Children

When deciding whether to leave the family home, consider the best interests of your children. Moving them away can be disruptive, so maintaining a stable environment might be preferable. Seeking legal advice to come to an agreement regarding your children's living arrangements, such as a consent order or parenting plan, is highly recommended.

Exclusive Occupation Orders

In certain circumstances, you may apply for an exclusive occupation order to force your spouse to leave the home. This order, governed by Section 114 of the Family Law Act, is an interim measure and does not affect the final property settlement. The court will consider factors such as the financial capabilities of each party, the best interests of any children, and any evidence of abuse or threats of abuse.

Domestic Violence Considerations

In cases of domestic violence, different rules apply. You can seek a domestic violence protection order to ensure your safety and that of your children. This order can compel the abusive spouse to leave the home and stay away. If you are at risk of family violence you should contact your local family violence organisation. In Victoria you can contact Orange Door, or call 1800 Respect.  

Living Under the Same Roof

Living together in the same home after separation can be challenging but is sometimes necessary due to financial constraints or other reasons. It's essential to establish separate living arrangements within the home and maintain separate finances to prove to the court that you are indeed separated.

Alternatives to Moving Out

  • Birdnesting: Involves children staying in the family home while parents take turns living there. This arrangement can provide stability for the children.

  • House Splitting: If the home is large enough, it can be divided into separate living areas for each spouse, sharing common areas as needed.

Practical Considerations

  • Financial Viability: Assess whether you can afford to move out and support two households.

  • Documentation: Take important documents and personal belongings when you leave.

  • Communication: If possible, reach an agreement with your spouse about managing joint bills and parenting arrangements.

Seeking Legal Advice

Navigating the complexities of separation and deciding who stays in the family home can be overwhelming. Consulting a family lawyer can provide you with the necessary guidance and help you make informed decisions. They can assist you in applying for exclusive occupation orders, navigating domestic violence issues, and ensuring that your rights are protected throughout the process.

Conclusion

Deciding who gets to stay in the family home during separation involves various legal and personal considerations. Understanding your rights and seeking appropriate legal advice can help you navigate this challenging time and ensure a fair resolution. Prioritize the well-being of any children involved and aim for a solution that minimizes conflict and disruption for everyone


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